My life was great. I had a great job and boyfriend of my dreams. Until, he dropped the bomb and I found myself asking how can I get my ex to love me again? No one ever expects this to happened to them but this is reality. Looking back now, I could see what I did wrong and how it came to the point I was desperately asking, how can I get my ex back and more importantly, how do I get him to love me again.
It was ironic how every person I met had some experience in breaking up and had something to say about the topic. I discovered that we all experience love in some way or other. It might be love of our parents and family. But, things get complicated when we get older and relationships become a risky business where suddenly I had to work hard just to find someone who will treat me right. I was so glad when I met my soul mate and felt the pressure is off. That was my first mistake. Like I said, relationship get complicated and I took my partner for granted.
Thank god I had good friends who understood my situation and stuck by me day and night to keep me company. That the first thing I did after I got my heart broken. My guy friends felt somewhat out of place but the eventually understood that I needed the support rather then advice at that time.
After going through what seem like the first 100 tissue boxes, I realized by the help of my friends that I had to get a grip of the situation and myself. It took some time but I decided to make up my mind and get my ex to love me again. I could have put the blame on him but it takes two to dance and apparently I did not keep with beat.
Next step is tricky, but with the help of your friends you can pull it off. Make the first contact with your ex by getting him to be in the same room with you. Plan to meet by accident at the common place like the mall or even at a party. I did say it is tricky. The trick here is to seem not effected by the break up and you are over it. This is the crucial part because you want to surprise him and get him thinking, “Did I just make a mistake?”
If it is done right, he will contact you again. If he calls, don't answer but text message him instead. Why text message? Well think about it. This is the first contact after the break up and who do you think will be emotional. Text messaging keep you in control. Get it!
Eventually text messaging will become tired. And hopefully more regular communication will happen. At this point you have got to keep cool and don't get into the blame game where you did this and that arguments. Think back to the time when you first meet. Come with the feeling you first had for one another. Admit it if you did wrong something wrong. This will set the tone of the relationship. Sincerity is the most important thing at this point. Like myself I realized I had the chance to take our relationship to a higher level.
How to get out of the vicious cycle of reacting to problems, conflicts and situations, and move towards acting proactively. This might sound easy, but there are critical steps that you need to take and learn with proper guidance.
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